Last year at this time was very joyous. My friend Madhubani had said that I must host a wedding for Priya in Kolkata, in spite of the American wedding. I was honestly exhausted from many financial responsibilities my entire life. But I listened to Madhubani. And I knew Priya wanted it very, very much.
It was one of the gladdest occasions of my entire life. Cleaning out the garden, speaking to the decorator, getting the house ready--it was thrilling and full. The garden you know, was as much a participant in the wedding festivities as we were. The garden hosted the wedding. So did the house.
This video was taken the day after Markus arrived, which was about a week before the wedding. It was a family meal that we were getting ready for. A video that captures my parents in a way that I doubt will be possible ever again.
Meals are very important. They reflect the cohesiveness of society. If one can't participate in a large meal, then it can mean that one is more exclusive than inclusive. In Macbeth, the new king cannot sit down the day of the official banquet to mark his newly acquired kingship. He is haunted by the ghost of Banquo. 
The video was taken when I was not that good a video maker or shooter. I just loved what the camera could do and one of them was video shooting. So the video is incomplete. Priya and Markus come down the stairs and I yield to her vociferous call to "Maya di".
Am sharing something quite personal. But I feel that music and food are part of any great celebration..
Oh, another thing. As a mark of respect to the great film maker Rituporno Ghosh. This song' Gaye amar pulak laage' is actually a 'Puja parjya' song of Rabindranath. However, Rituporno used it in an unforgettable manner for the first joyous renunion that Pupe and Gora have in Ganner Opare. That song remained with me and spontaneously surfaced as I took the video. It was exactly a week before the wedding.
AND one more thing. The ladies in the video, our invaluable domestic help, are those people who are the pillars and rocks of my house. They are actually the central point of the festivities. Why? Because it is their patient labour (Rita, particularly, of whom I spoke in the Saraswati Puja post) that makes celebration for us possible. Rita is engaged in frying brinjals--not 'begun bhaja' but brinajal/begun dipped in maize flour and fried. What one calls 'beguni' or 'telebhaja'. So one can easily see that the celebratory meal that I was speaking of so poetically above, is made by Rita and happily served by the others who are there..
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Sreemati Mukherjee shared a memory.
I posted this last year on this day. FB reminded me. I want to share it because it is beautiful, joyous and life affirming. I am sure my father would have been happy.
Priya r biye gotobochhor....ekta glimpse..
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Sreemati Mukherjee shared a memory.
I posted this last year on this day. FB reminded me. I want to share it because it is beautiful, joyous and life affirming. I am sure my father would have been happy.
Priya r biye gotobochhor....ekta glimpse..
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My father on the day of his wedding in April, 1959.
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  • Supriya Roy Sreemati Mukherjee .. I feel honoured that you asked me to write about him...I was searching for the picture you had taken a few years back of Nandada n me.... At one time Nandada was like head of the family of our para....I would hear people saying , ',oh we have to consult Nanda Mukherjee" .
  • Sreemati Mukherjee I feel so happy to hear this. Like everyone he had his flaws and good qualities. But his good qualities were really spectacular. When people remember that ( like you did) and speak about his qualities it makes me very happy. I thank you very, very much for this tribute to him. Thank you.
  • S Mukhopadhyay He looks like Hemanta Mukhopadhyay's relative. Extremely handsome like the heroes of old classic movies.
  • Amita Dutt
    🙏🙏🙏
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